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Re: Wise man = Husband = HalfWitt
Posted By: Brunnen-G, on host 203.96.111.202
Date: Friday, May 17, 2002, at 15:05:58
In Reply To: Re: Wise man = Husband = HalfWitt posted by Dave on Friday, May 17, 2002, at 14:30:07:

> >
> > I tried not to post this, but I can't help
> >myself.
> >
> > I know that it's a common joke for husbands to
> > refer to their wives as "the boss" or to let
> >them
> > "wear the pants," and I figure you're all
> > probably saying these things at least half in
> > jest. At least I hope so. Because a
> > domineering wife and a subservient (dare I
> > say "henpecked?) husband a happy marriage
> > do not make.
> >
> > Before I go any further, keep in mind that I'm
> > looking at this from a Biblical perspective. A
> > husband is supposed to be the leader of his
> > home. His wife is a partner, a help meet for
> > him. Paul referred to marriage as a picture of
> > Christ and the church. The husband
> > represents Christ, the head. He is supposed
> > to love his wife, care for her, meet her needs,
> > and guide her. She is supposed to love him,
> > honor him, and submit to him. A marriage
> > where the husband and wife work together
> > this way is a beautiful thing. When these roles
> > get mixed up, it breeds nagging wives, angry
> > husbands, miserable children, and often
> > leads to divorce -- and all that goes with it.
> >
>
> How come it can't be the other way around? Is there some magicl quality guys have that makes them automatically better at being the "leader of the household" that women don't have? What if a woman feels "henpecked"? Seems to me that if it works just fine in one direction, it ought to work just as fine in the other.
>
> Of course, I submit that it *doesn't* work just fine in either direction. Personally I think marriage ought to be a partnership, not a leader/follower role.
>
> -- Dave

Thank you for saying this, Dave. It prevented me from posting the same thing but probably in much harsher words. If Grishny and his wife both share the same beliefs about the husband being head of the house and they're both happy with their roles, which obviously they are or they wouldn't have got married under those terms, then I'm sure they'll have a very happy marriage. But the idea that there should be a "head of the house" in marriage, regardless of who it is, is anathema to me.

Since Grishny's views are based on his religious beliefs, however, I'm not going to go into this further. Whether or not there are other valid arguments for or against a proposition, I don't think there's any point in debating it on those grounds if the *main* argument is based on faith.

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