> > > Not that it matters much as far as the friendship goes as I doubt I'll ever see him again. He's LDS and leaving on his "mission" in less than a month. I've already decided that I cannot remain true to my own beliefs and write to him, thus implicitly condoning his actions.
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> > I predict that you'll eventually regret that decision
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> I don't know if you'll regret it, but it does seem like a bad reason not to write him. From what you said he already knows that you don't agree with his religious choices. If you were really worried about him thinking that you're condoning his actions you could just state that you're not in the letters.
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> fam"In other words you might not regret not writing.. but you might regret your reason. "ous

I have to say, I agree with famous. Also, there are too few really special people in the world with whom you can connect. Finding them is an unexpected pleasure, and one to be treasured.

Being able to work out a context for friendship (which *often* means agreeing to disagree on fundamental issues) is difficult, but most often worth it. Challenging beliefs and being challenged on your own is healthy, and normal.

From what I've read, you do feel a connection with this person - and the separation brought about by the "glittery" girlfriend (I loved your description) hurt you on some level, detached or not.

Shutting the door is a solution. Just maybe too much of a final one. Either way, trust yourself - you know your own values best, and should rely on your own judgement.

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