> Having a child isn't like buying a car. There's no way of knowing how much it will cost. Furthermore (and this is the key part), IT IS NOT ALWAYS EXPECTED. Sometimes kids weren't planned (not that this takes away from the parents' ability to love and take care of them).

Well, what I have a problem with is the fact that people engage in behavior that would cause pregnancy (i.e. unprotected sex) when they are unprepared, emotionally and financially, to have children. And I think that any sensible person would realize that raising a child will require a lot of extra money, including enough money to allow one parent to quit their job in order to raise the child(ren). There is no excuse for not being able to raise a child properly because of a lapse of judgement.

> They want to be a part in the shaping and molding of a human being.

It is cruel and wrong to willingly bring a child into this world if you do not have the resources to shape it properly. (besides special cases, like rape) If you're not prepared to give a child emotional and financial support, you have no right to have children.

> Yet another principle involved in this is financial unconstancy (I hope that's a real word). Sometimes people will have loads of money, have a kid, and then run out of money later for whatever reason.

Well, if unconstancy isn't a word, shouldn't we make it a word? is there another word for that? Maybe "inconsistancy" but that's not exactly the same....Anyway, I know people can fall on bad times and have bad luck and all that, but if you're going to be a parent, you have to at least make an effort to keep away from risky financial behavior (no investing all your money in internet start-ups) and the like. I'm not judging people who have children and suddenly run out of resources to raise them...I'm judging people who go ahead and have children/engage in unprotected sex even though they know, or should know, that they cannot raise children properly.

Missy"grrrr"Clar