> So my question is this: How deeply do you analzye people in reality? I know that I have based my opinions on people's appearances and actions. It is very easy to make a bad impression. How quickly do you judge a person when you meet them? When they come on Rinkchat?
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For me, it varies on the person that I meet. Usually, I get a first impression of a person the moment I set eyes on them. This is not a very stong impression, as I know next to nothing about them. But if I talk to them and get to know them more, then I tend to gravitate towards a stronger and stronger opinion towards them, which may or may not follow my first impression. Generally, the longer I know a person, the better I know them, so the closer I can get to "judging" them. This may not be the best way to put it. Rather, the longer I know a person, the more observations I make of him/her and the closer I come to making a complete evaluation of his/her character. But I try never to judge, because I never know *everything* about a person, and to make a completely fair judgement of his/her character, I need to know everything about them.

> And what, exactly, is that thing which everyone bases their evaluations of everyone on?

Everyone bases their evaluations on different things, I guess. For me, I suppose I place people's values high on the list. But someone else may look for intelligence, while someone else may look for wit.

What is the perfect body type, the perfect sense of humor, sense of duty, cleanliness, vocal tone?

All of these qualities are very different. I don't believe there is one perfect instance for any of them, but I do believe that there are different degrees to which one can have them. You can tell the difference between a good voice and a bad voice, one who has a sense of duty and one who doesn't, one who has a great sense of humor and one who has none. But I don't think that there is a state of perfection to any of them.
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> This all boils down to one major topic: What is the film through which people see the world?

The film all boils down to the individual's personality and past experiences. Those are the only two factors, ultimately, that shape a person, so logically, those would be the only two factors that determine the "film".

Why do different people have different perspectives?

Again, because they have different personalities, different momories, and also are in different situations.

Is it even possible to predict how others will see you? Or think about you?

To a degree. You can bet that if you dress sloppily, curse and spit in public, and don't shower for weeks at a time, then most people will not like you very much. However, outside of such extremes, it really depends on the individual person.

Is there any way to please anyone, let alone everyone with your behavior?

It would be extremely difficult at best to please everyone, since everyone has different viewponts and desires. But I don't see a reason why you couldn't please *anyone*. I'm sure someone out there could potentially be pleased with you at some point. In fact, I think it happens all the time.
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> And this leads to more questions. Should you change for other people? The reflex answer is "No, of course not.". But think about it. Everyone changes for other people. If you didn't, you would be an absolute social outcast. Imagine someone who didn't care at all what others thought about them. Say that they liked their natural odor, so never showered or wore deoderant. And maybe they don't like school, so they don't go, and therefore never learn proper grammar. Would anyone accept such a person? No. So of course it is important to change for other people, and to anticipate their reactions to you.
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> When do you achieve balance in this? When have you changed enough to be acceptable to most people, but not enough to still be yourself? Is that even possible?

To me, the answer is simple: Don't live to please others, but respect their rights. You don't have to conform yourself in every way to what others want from you. If you never showered or never went to school, then sure, other people would find it hard to accept you. But you wouldn't not shower or go to school without a reason, and obviously that reason is enough to outweigh the rejection by others, seeing as how you're acting on it. so, in those cases, with a good reason, you should not live to please others. But there is a line between not pleasing others and stepping on their rights. If I were to habitually punch everyone I meet, then sure, I'd have to have a good reason for it. But even though that reason, in my perspective, is enough to outweigh not pleasing them, I shoudn't punch everyone that I meet because to others, my reason is not enough to outweigh the pain that I cause them. So, seeing as how everyone's perspectives are different, the line between living to please others and respecting their rights varies according to the person.
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> Well. That's just another thing I think about. Maybe now it is something you will think about.

Is it ever.
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> Melanie

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