> > Not at all. When we're feeling down we often look to blame others for how we feel. If your friend made herself hard to get in touch with, and gave you no indication that she needed you, then you acted as any reasonable human being would act.
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> > Bal"Has had it up to here with moody ex-friends"anthalus
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> Well, it's a bit more complex than that. And I don't know if I can expect a meaningful answer when there's so much about the situation that I don't want to post on a public forum. But the fact that she was hiding should have been a clue that she needed help.

I don't know what the situation is like, but I have to side with Balanthalus anyway. I have never been able to respect the expectation that people understand what you want/need if you don't say what you want/need and mean what you say.

Even if her reasons for not mentioning anything explicitly to you are, for whatever reason, *understandable*, still I cannot conceive of any situation, no matter how dark or extreme, where it is your *fault* for not acting to meet demands of hers that she never made.