Things can change so quickly in your life and make it so completely different. I'm glad you feel that the Rinkworks community is one with which you can share such things, especially when there are people like me who don't share your religious beliefs. It's nice to think the support you get in this place transcends all those differences.

You can't judge a person's character by the mistakes they make. Their reactions to those mistakes and their subsequent behaviour are far more significant. I think your honesty and courage in doing what you believe to be right in this situation speaks well for the future of your marriage and also for your future as an evangelist.

I am only using the word "mistake" since it was something that seriously went against your beliefs. It was a mistake in that sense, but the act must be separated from the results. From what you say, you do not feel that your marriage is going to be a mistake, or your relationship with your future wife and your future child. Good. Years from now, I hope you will be able to look back and say that God blessed you when he gave you this wife and child. Please never believe that your marriage began from a mistake; your marriage is beginning from goodness and love and morality and honesty, and your desire to obey the will of God in overcoming your past errors. All the good things in your future family's life together will be a result of that, and a reward.

Brunnen-"was going to just say I agree with Sam, but Monkeyman beat me to it so I had to write a real post"G