> > Is this a clear sign to me it's too much
> > trouble to support and be with me? Should I
> > just get over it? HELP????? What do you
> > think?
>
> What do I think? I think your boyfriend /
> husband / fiance / whatever he is to you needs
> a major atitude adjustment.
>

I think whether he is obligated to go see her family or not depends on whether he is her boyfriend, husband, or fiance.

Husband? When you got married to Mrs. Grishny, you married into her family; and she into yours. Her obligations are now yours and vice-versa in that regard.

Fiance? "Strongly recommended" to begin taking those obligations on, let's say "semi-obligated".

Live-in boyfriend? Nope, not obligated. Sure, if he was decent, kind and *smart*, he would go with her. But obligated? No. He sounds more committed to his own convenience and agenda than to hers. Maybe that's why he'd rather live-with but not marry: convenience without obligation. Whether she is nice to his family or not is beside the point (just sounds like she is more committed than he is).

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