> I guess it just goes to show that nothing ever goes the way we want it to. This seems particularly unfair, though. Why couldn't he have died AFTER she got some time with him? But he didn't, and it's upsetting. So there is now one more widow in the world - the only difference is that I know this one.
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> Unipeg

A serious post deserves another.
Either Wilde or Shaw said that "Getting what you want and not getting what you want are both tragic."

I'm sad for you too, but all things pass. What I can offer to you though, are this eastern sage's last words:

"All conditioned things are impermanent. Work out your own salvation with diligence."

Chin up! The whole universe is right inside of you. With wild flowers in your hair, don't look back!