> The kind of dancing that I think is dangerous is slow dancing, with couples, a man and woman, dancing together, close together. Again, I'm not saying that this type of dancing is even wrong, just dangerous. Dangerous because it is a very intimate activity, and can obviously cause sexual arousal, which I believe should only happen between man and wife. Naturally, this leads me to take the position that this type of dancing should be reserved for marriage.
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Hey Grish:

I'm a Bible-believing Christian and all, so I'm on your side here, but there's something I don't understand.

Sure, slow-dancing is intimate. And I think it *can* cause sexual arousal, although I'm a little doubtful -- maybe it's different for guys, but I never got turned on just by dancing with a guy. I was too busy trying to think of something to say.

But there are a lot of things that can cause sexual arousal -- I mean, just holding hands will do it for some people. Can you really say that arousal should only happen in marriage?

Speaking as a hormone-ridden teenager, I would say that it's not being aroused that's the problem, it's what you do with it. Obviously, if slow-dancing does it for you every time and you don't want that to happen, then not slow-dancing is a good idea. But for me, kissing would be have much more arousal potential. Do you also disagree with kissing before marriage?

I think we would both say that sex is reserved for marriage. I have a few friends that take that to mean "absolutely everything up to that point is A-OK." Personally, I think that anything that approximates the feelings of sex is strictly a marriage deal. I only want to be that physically intimate with one person, the person I'm going to be with forever.

But if sex is an expression of love and commitment, then other physical intimacy is the same thing, just a little lower in intensity. Making out is an expression of less love/commitment than sex, and kissing less than making out, and so on. So I don't see how kissing could be wrong.

Anyway, I've rambled for a while (and I hope I haven't offended anyone!). Just wondering what you thought.

Jessica