I consider myself a Rinkworks sympathizer since my husband (Grishny) enjoys it so much. I have met some of you and chatted a little with a few. Since John (Grish) was talking about marriage I thought I should tell my side of the story.

Some of you ladies (Ellmyruh and Brunnen-G in particular) may wonder if what he said was really true. I believe (as he said) that the Bible commands the husband to be the head of his wife. The Bible doesn't stop there however. Why is the wife commanded to submit and the husband to love? Not only is it harder for a man to show love than a woman (it doesn't come as naturally), his love is the very thing a woman yearns for. In turn it is very difficult for me as a woman to submit to my husband. My very nature rebels against it. Yet my husband yearns for my respect or honor.

Being under my husband's headship does not make me less. The Bible says a husband should dwell with his wife according to knowledge. This is because we are equal intellectual beings. We just have different roles. My opinions and my ideas matter. My husband would be failing in his command to love if he expected me to just be his servant. It doesn't work that way. We serve each other. As Sam mentioned, the Bible says submit to each other. The difference is, when a wrong decision is made in our home, John will be judged by God. I'll be judged by God if I react incorrectly to his mistake. I am to be John's supporter.

Oh, one more thing: I stay home because I want to. Really! I have worked in daycare centers and babysat other people's children. I want to be the one raising my child. I am thankful that I can do that. I do NOT think it is wrong for wives to work. Please do not think that a choice to stay home means I condemn those who do not. There were working women in the Bible. The work issue has nothing to do with our beliefs about the roles of husband and wife.