> Has anyone ever noticed that the most innocent people always get the worst deals in life. Here's an example: one of my dearest friend's cousin is the most level headed, sweetest, most considerate person one could meet. He never disobeys his parents or does anything to hurt others. His sister, on the other hand, is a fiesty brat. She got caught sneaking out her bedroom window one night and her brother got the primary blame for it. He is now resticted from driving anywhere but to school and he is restricted from any form of entertainment for a month, this includes even listening to the radio. His parents said that he didn't provide a good enough influence on his sister and didn't spend enough time with her, and that's why she does bad things. Also, his sister only got a warning, she got absolutely no true punishment. I don't understand why good people have bad things happen to them. It seems so unfair.

Uh. If this is really what happened, then these kids' parents are completely insane. I'm wondering if there are some other circumstances involved here which you don't know about, or maybe you received a false impression of what happened.

To reassure you, though: it isn't unfair that good people have bad things happen to them. Bad people also have bad things happen to them. Good people have good things happen to them. And so on. It's called life.

I don't believe that the most innocent/good people automatically get the worst deals in life. People don't just drift through life and, uh oh, something happens to them, oh no there's nothing they can do about it! People have choices. When people are naive or ignorant about the way the world works, they tend to get bad luck. Then they learn from experience and it doesn't happen again. If they aren't willing to learn from experience, then it's their own silly fault if their life is still rotten. Every now and then, of course, you just DO get a huge run of random bad stuff. This doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Again, it's just statistically what happens in life. Think of all the times you get a huge run of random good stuff.

When you're young, every little problem can seem like a huge crisis or injustice. Most people outgrow this by their late teens ... I know a few who haven't ;-). So don't worry about the unfairness of the world too much. Your perspective on it will probably change considerably over the next few years.