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Re: Chivalry, doors, and Femi-nazis
Posted By: 10Kan, on host 152.33.166.105
Date: Monday, October 8, 2001, at 20:40:14
In Reply To: Re: Disney, "he," and Femi-nazis posted by Sosiqui on Monday, October 8, 2001, at 10:30:25:

> > But here in Mass, femi-nazi is an understatement. I *have* actually encountered real people who spell it "womyn."
> >
>
> And then there are the women (or should it be something else? How do they pluralize 'womyn', anyway?) who get extremely insulted and huffy if a man happens to, say, hold a door open for them. I encountered THAT particular issue during a discussion in my humanities class last semester. One girl went off about how it was condescending, implied weakness, etc. That view of it surprised me - I had always (and still do) looked at such actions as showing courtesy and respect, not insult. To me, a man opening a door for a women doesn't indicate that he thinks she's not strong enough to open it - it indicates politeness. If anything, it's always struck me as being deferential.

I've always held the door for folks of both sexes, especially when a large group is coming through, or a person is encumbered and unable to open a door without running the risk of dropping whatever he/she's carrying. It never implies that the person might be unable to open the door, or that I am superior in any way to them, just that I got to the door first and it would be very rude to let it close in their face, whoever they are.

In short, it's pure love, man.
The haters just don't understand,
because they expected
the worst out of me
'cause I'm a male -10Kan

>
> I suppose that goes to show that ANYTHING can be made insulting if you put your mind to it.
>
> Sosi"protest that the sky is blue, a shade traditionally associated with male children! Sure."qui

Word, Sosiqui.

10"rhyming man with Kan. Genius!"Kan

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