> I was thinking today about how very dead this forum is and that made me sad. So I decided to post something and see if we can get some discussion going again.
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> So, here is my story of the very angry woman that lives in my neighborhood. I'm going to call her "Sun" because the world revolves around her.
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> Sun looooves to talk about herself. She is pregnant and is the very first pregnant woman to ever exist. She is also sicker than anyone has ever been, ever. If you try to have a "Conversation" with her, she interrupts before you can get 2 sentences out, to turn the "Conversation" back to the very important topic of... herself.
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> She never has a nice thing to say about: Her husband, her kids, her dog, her neighbor, her kid's school, her kid's teachers.
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> She has pulled her 7 year old out of school twice, threatening to home school her, and then had to put her kid back in school each time, because this lady is not cut out home school.
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> But the thing that gets me the most is when she says "I don't wanna sound racist or nothin', but..." and then says something incredibly racist. I've had to walk away several times, because if you try to say "No, not all Korean's are mean (expletives)." She interrupts to say "No, it's just their culture, they're all just mean (expletives). That's not racist, it's just part of their culture!"
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> It's like she wants a permission to say whatever it is that she's about to say, and you have to let her because she's already put the disclaimer out there that she's not racist. So she can say racist things, but let's not forget... she's not racist! Oh, no, wouldn't want to *sound* racist, after all.
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> So, even though she doesn't want to sound racist, I've learned that she thinks: All Chinese people are bad drivers, all Koreans are mean (Expletives) and all black people are drug dealers and trouble makers.
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> I try to spend the least amount of time with her as possible, but sometimes it's unavoidable. Being stuck in a room with her is my version of Hell.
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> So, how about you. Do you know anyone who likes to use a disclaimer before they say something racist? And how crazy does it drive you?

If anyone ever starts a sentence with "I'm not X, but..." it's dollars to doughnuts that the second half of the sentence will prove the first half a lie. And on some level they must know it's a lie, or they wouldn't feel the need to add a disclaimer.